Category: gender identity

Is Your Personhood Vulnerable?

It used to be about love, but now it’s about identity. “It” of course is sexuality…the purpose and pleasure of having sex. Humans need intimacy to thrive. Finding the right person to be intimate with is incredibly difficult especially when your goal is to have a meaningful relationship. Let’s face it, sex without the meaningful relationship is actually just basic animal instinct. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather not live an animal’s existence.

Puberty for a human is hard enough even without the social pressures. Physical and emotional changes in puberty challenge the individual because these changes happen differently to everyone…Humans are not monolithic and interchangeable. Societal standards like those found in family, religious or cultural relationships are used to help us through these challenges therefore we must also acknowledge that families, religions and cultures are not monolithic and interchangeable. Traditional standards help to ground the individual with a starting point…The ending point is their own individual journey secured by a Constitution that elevates life, liberty and their pursuit of happiness.

It’s a jungle out there!

Being gay, lesbian or bisexual is more than having a “lifestyle”. Increased awareness through the decades if not centuries has exposed the fact that attraction and intimacy between same sex partners exists beyond the border of sex as the method for procreation. Humans are gifted with an intelligence that does not have a real border. Yet, humans must have borders that are natural (of God our Creator) and material (of man such as through imposed laws by the state or by cultural traditions). If there are no perceived borders, then the individual is susceptible to manipulation of their identity. It’s literally “identity theft “.

The cultural borders of sex (the act of having sex) are being challenged by the human desire for sexual exploration. The act of having sex should not be confused with one’s gender identity though. Gender is a binary fact and identity is subjective based on feelings. For instance; I am a biological woman who feels best when I don’t have to wear makeup or dresses. Makeup and dresses are simply a costume to help me appear more feminine. Mostly I like to wear pants, cute tops, very little makeup if any and my eyeglasses instead of my contacts. And, I hope that my family and friends accept that about me. I am not a man because I don’t wear makeup and prefer pants. I am a biological woman with makeup and clothing preferences which are subjective and are things that I can easily change depending upon the circumstances or my mood. My biology cannot change, my genetics cannot change, and my attraction to the opposite gender I would not change. No one except my romantic partner needs to know about my sex-act preferences beyond the fact that I am attracted to men. Anything else is TMI. This is true for anyone no matter how they identify as a unique individual. Exploring safe sex-act pleasure should only be done in a loving and respectful adult relationship, even if that relationship is with yourself.

There is only one YOU. Your Creator made you a physical temple for you to respect and care for because you only get one body. Your Creator gifted you a metaphysical temple to humbly learn about your unique talents and spiritual journey toward enlightenment and wholeness with the universe which we all inherit. Your body and soul are exclusively yours. Treat them with a high regard for a healthy development.

The Ultimate Attraction

Change your name and your costume, but don’t change your healthy body parts. You might be surprised what manipulators are capable of having you do to yourself and your standards. Think about it! How far would you be willing to go to change your subjective discomfort? Does full body transgenderism lead to trans humanism? Advancements in AI could lead us to it. Could YOU be lead to it? If so then it’s sadly the most perverse ideology coming for us.

Please, keep your personhood authentic and not vulnerable to God-less manipulation.

The Fetish With Pronouns

Do you remember Mad Libs? I used to love these one page “stories” in which you fill in the blanks and the story would become sillier with the more interesting noun, pronoun or adjective you would think of…This is how I imagine our world today 🙂

The thing is, back when I was in grade school and Mad Libs were popular, my education was on par with filling out those blanks. For instance, a sentence was a sentence. It had a beginning, middle and end with punctuation and most of all meaning. These days I’m finding that most anyone graduating past the year 2000 or so is forgetting about this grammatically correct way of communicating. I’m not suggesting that my writing skills are perfect, however I’m seeing that the real world is behaving more like a “Mad Lib” every day.

Our mad world today.

For instance, let’s consider pronouns. A pronoun (I, me, he, she, herself, you, it, that, they, each, few, many, who, whoever, whose, someone, everybody, etc.) is a word that takes the place of a noun, typically replacing one’s name or a thing as referenced in a sentence. The pronoun sometimes is “gendered” which simply means that it identifies with the name of the individual. This last point is important! Why? Because “gender” is grounded in language. Gender is real and necessary. “Language activists” believe that a pronoun is a descriptor which an individual wishes to be referred to in order to indicate their gender identity. No! Gender identity is a personal construct of the imagination. Believing that someone can wish their pronoun into being is a fetish of narcissistic magnitude and goes against language norms. Either an individual has a proper name or they don’t…The pronoun identifies the name.

“Hello. My name is __________ (fill in the blank). I am happy to meet you! We should get together sometime soon to get to know each other better.“

“I just met a new friend named _________ (fill in the blank). He/She (Correct pronoun needed here depending upon the name) is a very kind person.“

The two sentences above are grammatically correct depending upon the inserted name and corresponding pronoun. My name is Bette and it is a female name and therefore uses a female pronoun which would be “She” in the second sentence. If I am emailing someone I have never met before who is named Pat, Chris or Jamie then I might have a problem, but I don’t need their pronoun in order to converse with them directly. I would hope by the time we get to know each other that the he/she or him/her aspect would be known. If Pat, Chris or Jamie have the least bit of self awareness then they would grant me the respect of learning who they are by not getting upset over a pronoun. An email that closes with “Sincerely, Pat he/him” is fine, but only because Pat realizes that he is a man and might be mistaken for a she/her….But this is typically insignificant because people should always be granted the benefit of doubt! I can’t tell you how many times people get my name wrong, even those who have known me for years type Betty. I could never judge them harshly for this oversight because I understand that my name is different. This is the Christian way to behave. Otherwise your behavior is judgmental, egotistical and borders on tyrannical.

Now there are newly created pronouns attempting to be used in the English Language. Here are the examples: xe/xem/xyr, ze/hir/hirs, and ey/em/eir. What are these? Fetishes of a clown world of course. Go ahead and use one as your legal name, but don’t mess with the fundamentals of our English language.*

*My opinion on this subject is my right to express according to the Constitution which governs our country.